Natural life & healthy humans are freely openly honest, appreciative, loving & enjoy spontaneous friendships of many kinds.
Natural life & healthy humans are freely openly honest, appreciative, loving & enjoy both solitude and spontaneous, honest friendships of many kinds.
Healthy, natural, trustworthy people do not negatively project, relate in passive-aggressively nor directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, gaslighting, or ghosting ways. Healthy, integral beings are unpolluted by negative assumptions, projections, related feeeeelings & accusations. No matter how popular, ideologically & socially indoctrinated & promoted and confirmation-biased such are.
Be & relate with life and people with the same qualities as you want to receive & be related with.
Including genuinely open honesty, appreciation, inquisitiveness & kindness.
These sheepdogs I met in a field near a winery, which I discovered while gliding through meandering back-roads of Sonoma and Napa valley.
Healthy, natural, trustworthy people do not negatively project, relate in passive-aggressively nor directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, gaslighting, or ghosting ways. Healthy, integral beings are unpolluted by negative assumptions, projections, related feeeeelings & accusations. No matter how popular, ideologically & socially indoctrinated & promoted and confirmation-biased such are.
Be & relate with life and people with the same qualities as you want to receive & be related with.
Including genuinely open honesty, appreciation, inquisitiveness & kindness.
These sheepdogs I met in a field near a winery, which I discovered while gliding through meandering back-roads of Sonoma and Napa valley.
Natural nature.
Do you intentionally use some of your time to perceive & respect the creativity, resourcefulness, love, hardships, and risks to & sacrifices of health & life, which ( mostly ) men embody in their inventing, constructing & maintaining infrastructure which is nearly ubiquitous?
Do you intentionally use some of your time to perceive & respect the creativity, resourcefulness, love, hardships, and risks to & sacrifices of health & life, which ( mostly ) men embody in their inventing, constructing & maintaining infrastructure which is nearly ubiquitous? Buildings, bridges, homes, ships, roads, vehicles, and so much more which your, my & millions of other people's lives are made so much easier, healthy, productive & creatively supported by the existence of.
Often what is considered the "natural" world includes oceans, trees, earth, mountains, the varied hues of the sky, rivers, plants, and the like. Nature is generally viewed as disparate from human-created things like buildings, airplanes, furniture, smartphones, electrical transformers and power-lines, dams, the internet, and millions of additional inventions.
Yet in some ways, human creations are another aspect of nature. We are nature as much as the earth and other lifeforms gradually evolving and existing upon and beyond the planet we abide on.
Debatable? Sure.
Beavers gather desired shapes & sizes of branches and debris which they use to build their waterworld dams & residences.
Some birds search for twigs, leaves, mud, fur, and other things, layering and stuffing them into comfy nests for themselves, their avian partner and their offspring.
Humans just tend to be more evolved, and complex in our ideas and creations.
As our brain, nervous system & circulatory system expansively seeks out & creates additional novel & efficient connections, so to are creations human make in the world naturally expressing spiritual-earthly nature.
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #harmony #gratitude #dogma #awareness #beauty #communication #relationships #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #meditation #equality #invention #infrastructure #friendship #naturelovers #nature #napavalley #goldengatebridge #perception
Do you intentionally use some of your time to perceive & respect the creativity, resourcefulness, love, hardships, and risks to & sacrifices of health & life, which ( mostly ) men embody in their inventing, constructing & maintaining infrastructure which is nearly ubiquitous? Buildings, bridges, homes, ships, roads, vehicles, and so much more which your, my & millions of other people's lives are made so much easier, healthy, productive & creatively supported by the existence of.
Often what is considered the "natural" world includes oceans, trees, earth, mountains, the varied hues of the sky, rivers, plants, and the like. Nature is generally viewed as disparate from human-created things like buildings, airplanes, furniture, smartphones, electrical transformers and power-lines, dams, the internet, and millions of additional inventions.
Yet in some ways, human creations are another aspect of nature. We are nature as much as the earth and other lifeforms gradually evolving and existing upon and beyond the planet we abide on.
Debatable? Sure.
Beavers gather desired shapes & sizes of branches and debris which they use to build their waterworld dams & residences.
Some birds search for twigs, leaves, mud, fur, and other things, layering and stuffing them into comfy nests for themselves, their avian partner and their offspring.
Humans just tend to be more evolved, and complex in our ideas and creations.
As our brain, nervous system & circulatory system expansively seeks out & creates additional novel & efficient connections, so to are creations human make in the world naturally expressing spiritual-earthly nature.
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #harmony #gratitude #dogma #awareness #beauty #communication #relationships #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #meditation #equality #invention #infrastructure #friendship #naturelovers #nature #napavalley #goldengatebridge #perception
Be honest.
Be honest. 💙☯️Many years ago I read a suggestion in a book by a Taoist elder, to not despair that there are more dishonest, unintegral people in the world than honest. I'm paraphrasing, that was the essence of his comment.
It's something that really resonated with me. And its' truth has become more apparent as I've experienced more of people in society.
As I've grown and experienced more of people and life, I have to remind myself not be caught off guard and saddened, disappointed at the fact that most people, including many who claim to be "spiritual", "empowered", "loving", teachers and practitioners of yoga, etc., choose to be & relate in negatively assumptive & projecting, abusive passive aggressive and directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, ghosting & gaslighting ways.
And how often such people further falsely accuse, ghost and claim to feel offended, "unsafe", "oppressed", "uncomfortable", when I & others are honest and honestly admit truths they don't like and want to ignore.
And when I & others honestly admit experiencing & recognizing such behaviors and their untrustworthy, misleading, unintegral, clarity and harmony-inhibiting nature & effects.
When I & others admit how such attitudes & behaviors negatively affect my & others lives, careers, income, reputations, friendships & relationships of all kinds, & in additional ways are adverse to integrity, clarity and honesty.
Even people who claim to not like being ghosted and feel it is immature & disrespectful if it is done to them, will choose to ghost those of us who are honest, combined with negatively projecting and gaslighting us in an attempt to excuse doing what they don't like being done to them.
To feel better about such choices they often associate with people who have a blinding in-group preferential bias. Something which is very common among women who blindly "just believe" women & are more concerned with being part of the in-group, part of the gossip gang and "sisterhood".
More so than being unbiased and honest such as when it requires admitting and not going along with hypocritical, negatively projecting, passive-aggressive, lying, falsely accusatory, ghosting attitudes and behaviors.
Most people are more invested, subconsciously and / or consciously, in staying entrenched in & acting out their negative projecting, divisive male-vilifying & female innocence confirmation-biased assumptions, related feelings, subjective limits of understanding & appreciation, paranoia and other negative, shadow attitudes and behaviors.
More than choosing to own their equality of responsibility and accountability for such & generally.
And more than choosing to be, communicate & relate authentically openly directly honestly with ( not deafly at and ghosting ) each other in order to develop deeper, more accurate mutual understanding, appreciation, respect and harmonious relationships of all kinds.
Including, of course, one's relationship with oneself, as such is affected by and expresses from this.
In my work as a massage therapist I've also encountered some people who act out in such ways by not being upfront and directly communicative with me at the start and during massages about any subjective boundaries, preferences, expectations, and questions they may have before expecting me to understand & thereby be able to respect such.
And who negatively project, lie, falsely accuse & ghost in an attempt to shift their responsibility for doing so and the effects of it, onto me or some other boogeyman they conjure in their mind and emotions.
For instance, I always tell people to be directly and honestly communicative with me at any time if they have specific boundaries, preferences and expectations during sessions about what, when, and where they are, for mutual clarity and comfort.
So I can flow in giving accordingly.
If someone requests a general or relaxing massage especially, I keep my own talking to a bare minimum during massages to allow people to relax, quiet and calm their mind and body more deeply.
If someone wants me to focus in a diagnostic way and verbally describe what I am doing and what I notice but waits until near the end of the session or after it but doesn't clearly state their expectations and desires for this at the start, that prevents me from focusing the session accordingly.
Since, of course, a diagnostic massage or strictly sports type massage will be given differently than a massage requested for relaxation, calming and general flow support.
The latter will not be focused on testing for unmentioned issues but instead given with a quiet, calm nourishing quality without talking.
This generally includes my talking very little after the massage, so people can continue to relax into and enjoy the grounding, calming & nurturing quality of their massages throughout the day & evening.
And even when they receive a great, relaxing massage which is beneficial, they may mistake my lack of talking for a lack of competence. Their mental noise and lack of appreciation will derail the benefits of the massage and relaxation it supports.
Another example exemplifying the double standards, assumptive projections and passive aggressiveness many people relate with and how it damages what are and can be otherwise mutually positive relationships of all kinds, was embodied by a woman Pilates teacher ( referred to as Jennifer for this example - her real name I am not using in respect of privacy ).
I traded massages with Jennifer a few years ago in exchange for private Pilates lessons from her.
We initially connected via our respective business social media accounts, where she had liked and commented affirmatively multiple times on some of my posts about massage sessions I provide and affirming the need for open honesty,
Eventually, she expressed a desire to receive massages from me in exchange for private Pilates lessons from her.
So we met, she talked more in person and again expressed how important being honest is to her as well.
Referencing a prior intimate relationship she was in with a man who she felt hurt and confused by after he suddenly ghosted her, she again said part of the reason she wanted to trade with me is because of my prioritizing of honesty with self and each other. And that I would talk honestly and openly with her rather than ghost her.
We continued trading for a while, usually at my office. After and in between massage sessions she received from me she happily expressed absolutely loving the massages she was receiving from me, saying they are the best she has experienced and how unusually deeply nurturing and calming they are. Sometimes our trades would last for a few hours or longer.
Then one day she texted me saying she wants to schedule another time to meet, receive another massage & trade with me. I responded with some of my available times, and mentioned one of the days I was booked due to an ongoing trade I had with another woman who also is a Pilates teacher and an acupuncturist.
Crickets....!
It was like suddenly I was texting into a black hole.
That was the last I ever heard from her. I followed up with a few texts, in case one somehow did not get delivered.
Nothing.
The only thing I can assume is that perhaps she falsely assumed because I was trading with another woman who also taught Pilates, that I would stop my trades with her in favor of the other woman who was also a friend. Or that I would judge her relative to the other woman. Although if she had simply chosen to directly express her questions, concerns, whatever it was with me, that would allow for the development of clearer mutual understanding.
I had no intention of replacing her for the other woman I was trading with. As I appreciated them both for their unique personal qualities, our respective personal connections, and for their unique ways of practicing and teaching Pilates.
And I wasn't even trading with the other woman for Pilates at that time, but for acupuncture and some massage.
Unfortunately, as much as she had made a point of expressing how disrespected and hurt she had felt from being ghosted by others previously, what an unintegral behavior it is to do to someone, that is exactly what she chose to do to me. How she chose to relate. And to herself in a way, by preventing the discovery that what she feared, worried and negatively projected was likely not the reality with me and life in that context. She wanted to receive foundational honesty & consideration which she herself did not give.
Make the more openly directly communicative, inquisitive, honest, trustworthy, loving, accountable, and integral choices to be truly openly honest - honestly communicative with ( rather than deafly negatively projecting at & ghosting ) each other.
And own your responsibility & accountability for your multilayered assumptions, projections, related feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and effects of such. In order to embody integrity, beauty, trustworthiness and co-create mutual understanding & harmonious relationships of all kinds. Relationships including with other humans, oneself and life in essence.
It's something that really resonated with me. And its' truth has become more apparent as I've experienced more of people in society.
As I've grown and experienced more of people and life, I have to remind myself not be caught off guard and saddened, disappointed at the fact that most people, including many who claim to be "spiritual", "empowered", "loving", teachers and practitioners of yoga, etc., choose to be & relate in negatively assumptive & projecting, abusive passive aggressive and directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, ghosting & gaslighting ways.
And how often such people further falsely accuse, ghost and claim to feel offended, "unsafe", "oppressed", "uncomfortable", when I & others are honest and honestly admit truths they don't like and want to ignore.
And when I & others honestly admit experiencing & recognizing such behaviors and their untrustworthy, misleading, unintegral, clarity and harmony-inhibiting nature & effects.
When I & others admit how such attitudes & behaviors negatively affect my & others lives, careers, income, reputations, friendships & relationships of all kinds, & in additional ways are adverse to integrity, clarity and honesty.
Even people who claim to not like being ghosted and feel it is immature & disrespectful if it is done to them, will choose to ghost those of us who are honest, combined with negatively projecting and gaslighting us in an attempt to excuse doing what they don't like being done to them.
To feel better about such choices they often associate with people who have a blinding in-group preferential bias. Something which is very common among women who blindly "just believe" women & are more concerned with being part of the in-group, part of the gossip gang and "sisterhood".
More so than being unbiased and honest such as when it requires admitting and not going along with hypocritical, negatively projecting, passive-aggressive, lying, falsely accusatory, ghosting attitudes and behaviors.
Most people are more invested, subconsciously and / or consciously, in staying entrenched in & acting out their negative projecting, divisive male-vilifying & female innocence confirmation-biased assumptions, related feelings, subjective limits of understanding & appreciation, paranoia and other negative, shadow attitudes and behaviors.
More than choosing to own their equality of responsibility and accountability for such & generally.
And more than choosing to be, communicate & relate authentically openly directly honestly with ( not deafly at and ghosting ) each other in order to develop deeper, more accurate mutual understanding, appreciation, respect and harmonious relationships of all kinds.
Including, of course, one's relationship with oneself, as such is affected by and expresses from this.
In my work as a massage therapist I've also encountered some people who act out in such ways by not being upfront and directly communicative with me at the start and during massages about any subjective boundaries, preferences, expectations, and questions they may have before expecting me to understand & thereby be able to respect such.
And who negatively project, lie, falsely accuse & ghost in an attempt to shift their responsibility for doing so and the effects of it, onto me or some other boogeyman they conjure in their mind and emotions.
For instance, I always tell people to be directly and honestly communicative with me at any time if they have specific boundaries, preferences and expectations during sessions about what, when, and where they are, for mutual clarity and comfort.
So I can flow in giving accordingly.
If someone requests a general or relaxing massage especially, I keep my own talking to a bare minimum during massages to allow people to relax, quiet and calm their mind and body more deeply.
If someone wants me to focus in a diagnostic way and verbally describe what I am doing and what I notice but waits until near the end of the session or after it but doesn't clearly state their expectations and desires for this at the start, that prevents me from focusing the session accordingly.
Since, of course, a diagnostic massage or strictly sports type massage will be given differently than a massage requested for relaxation, calming and general flow support.
The latter will not be focused on testing for unmentioned issues but instead given with a quiet, calm nourishing quality without talking.
This generally includes my talking very little after the massage, so people can continue to relax into and enjoy the grounding, calming & nurturing quality of their massages throughout the day & evening.
And even when they receive a great, relaxing massage which is beneficial, they may mistake my lack of talking for a lack of competence. Their mental noise and lack of appreciation will derail the benefits of the massage and relaxation it supports.
Another example exemplifying the double standards, assumptive projections and passive aggressiveness many people relate with and how it damages what are and can be otherwise mutually positive relationships of all kinds, was embodied by a woman Pilates teacher ( referred to as Jennifer for this example - her real name I am not using in respect of privacy ).
I traded massages with Jennifer a few years ago in exchange for private Pilates lessons from her.
We initially connected via our respective business social media accounts, where she had liked and commented affirmatively multiple times on some of my posts about massage sessions I provide and affirming the need for open honesty,
Eventually, she expressed a desire to receive massages from me in exchange for private Pilates lessons from her.
So we met, she talked more in person and again expressed how important being honest is to her as well.
Referencing a prior intimate relationship she was in with a man who she felt hurt and confused by after he suddenly ghosted her, she again said part of the reason she wanted to trade with me is because of my prioritizing of honesty with self and each other. And that I would talk honestly and openly with her rather than ghost her.
We continued trading for a while, usually at my office. After and in between massage sessions she received from me she happily expressed absolutely loving the massages she was receiving from me, saying they are the best she has experienced and how unusually deeply nurturing and calming they are. Sometimes our trades would last for a few hours or longer.
Then one day she texted me saying she wants to schedule another time to meet, receive another massage & trade with me. I responded with some of my available times, and mentioned one of the days I was booked due to an ongoing trade I had with another woman who also is a Pilates teacher and an acupuncturist.
Crickets....!
It was like suddenly I was texting into a black hole.
That was the last I ever heard from her. I followed up with a few texts, in case one somehow did not get delivered.
Nothing.
The only thing I can assume is that perhaps she falsely assumed because I was trading with another woman who also taught Pilates, that I would stop my trades with her in favor of the other woman who was also a friend. Or that I would judge her relative to the other woman. Although if she had simply chosen to directly express her questions, concerns, whatever it was with me, that would allow for the development of clearer mutual understanding.
I had no intention of replacing her for the other woman I was trading with. As I appreciated them both for their unique personal qualities, our respective personal connections, and for their unique ways of practicing and teaching Pilates.
And I wasn't even trading with the other woman for Pilates at that time, but for acupuncture and some massage.
Unfortunately, as much as she had made a point of expressing how disrespected and hurt she had felt from being ghosted by others previously, what an unintegral behavior it is to do to someone, that is exactly what she chose to do to me. How she chose to relate. And to herself in a way, by preventing the discovery that what she feared, worried and negatively projected was likely not the reality with me and life in that context. She wanted to receive foundational honesty & consideration which she herself did not give.
Make the more openly directly communicative, inquisitive, honest, trustworthy, loving, accountable, and integral choices to be truly openly honest - honestly communicative with ( rather than deafly negatively projecting at & ghosting ) each other.
And own your responsibility & accountability for your multilayered assumptions, projections, related feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and effects of such. In order to embody integrity, beauty, trustworthiness and co-create mutual understanding & harmonious relationships of all kinds. Relationships including with other humans, oneself and life in essence.
If you passive-aggressively and / or directly lie, you are abusive and a source of disharmony. Be better & thereby deserve better than that.
If you passive aggressively and/ or directly lie to and / or about people, by omission, commission and / or ghosting, you are abusive, narcissistic, a source of disharmony, lack of clarity, and a barrier to healthy, honest love in life & relationships of all kinds.
True regardless of how "spiritual" you claim to be, and how much denial, negative projection, gaslighting and further lying you do.
Regardless of how many "likes" & virtual or in person "friends" you have and how many dishonest people you surround yourself with who "just believe", "empower" & excuse you & your related attitudes, behaviors & ways of relating.
Be better than that to be trustworthy, clear and loving.
Recognize & own your own subjective negative assumptive projections, related feelings & behaviors.
And your equality of responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts, including for communicating proactively & responsively directly honestly with each other generally & about any subjective boundaries, assumptions, feelings, questions, etc before expecting to have such understood and equally respected.
And in order to learn what of such is inaccurate and correct your beliefs.
Such is required for foundational integrity, mutual clarity & respect, love and harmony within oneself and in relationships of all kinds.
True regardless of how "spiritual" you claim to be, and how much denial, negative projection, gaslighting and further lying you do.
Regardless of how many "likes" & virtual or in person "friends" you have and how many dishonest people you surround yourself with who "just believe", "empower" & excuse you & your related attitudes, behaviors & ways of relating.
Be better than that to be trustworthy, clear and loving.
Recognize & own your own subjective negative assumptive projections, related feelings & behaviors.
And your equality of responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts, including for communicating proactively & responsively directly honestly with each other generally & about any subjective boundaries, assumptions, feelings, questions, etc before expecting to have such understood and equally respected.
And in order to learn what of such is inaccurate and correct your beliefs.
Such is required for foundational integrity, mutual clarity & respect, love and harmony within oneself and in relationships of all kinds.
How do you deserve to be treated?
If you lie to and / or about me, passive aggressively or directly ( by omission or commission), and about your own attitudes, behaviors and effects of such, you deserve to be lied to and about by people and experience the same negative effects.
If you negatively project onto & censor me, you deserve to be negatively projected onto & censored by people.
If you steal from me, you deserve to be stolen from.
If you ghost me, you deserve to be ghosted by people.
If you gaslight, dehumanize, and lie ( to me, yourself and / or others ) in attempt to excuse embodying such unintegral, narcissistic, unloving attitudes & behaviors and their effects, you deserve to be gaslighted and lied to and about by others.
If you associate with and take advice from people who support, empower, just believe & encourage you to relate in such ways, you deserve for people to likewise support, empower, just believe & encourage people to treat you in such ways.
This is a foundational truth. Karma.
No amount of lying, feeling & claiming to be "offended" & "uncomfortable" at such truths will change these truths.
Only changing your own attitudes and behaviors to no longer embody, no longer think & act in such dishonest, hypocritical ways, will change such for the better.
Only fully honestly admitting, owning up to and changing such, choosing to treat me and others with full direct open honesty & honest communicating ( not deafly projecting at & ghosting ) with each other, appreciation, respect and empathy as you want to be treated with.
This is what allows & is necessarily foundational for co-creating clear mutual understanding, respect, love, integrity, trustworthiness and harmony.
If you negatively project onto & censor me, you deserve to be negatively projected onto & censored by people.
If you steal from me, you deserve to be stolen from.
If you ghost me, you deserve to be ghosted by people.
If you gaslight, dehumanize, and lie ( to me, yourself and / or others ) in attempt to excuse embodying such unintegral, narcissistic, unloving attitudes & behaviors and their effects, you deserve to be gaslighted and lied to and about by others.
If you associate with and take advice from people who support, empower, just believe & encourage you to relate in such ways, you deserve for people to likewise support, empower, just believe & encourage people to treat you in such ways.
This is a foundational truth. Karma.
No amount of lying, feeling & claiming to be "offended" & "uncomfortable" at such truths will change these truths.
Only changing your own attitudes and behaviors to no longer embody, no longer think & act in such dishonest, hypocritical ways, will change such for the better.
Only fully honestly admitting, owning up to and changing such, choosing to treat me and others with full direct open honesty & honest communicating ( not deafly projecting at & ghosting ) with each other, appreciation, respect and empathy as you want to be treated with.
This is what allows & is necessarily foundational for co-creating clear mutual understanding, respect, love, integrity, trustworthiness and harmony.
Tell the full truth. And thereby be trustworthy & beautiful.
Tell the whole truth. Including about ones attitudes,, behaviors and effects of such.
Be more mature, integral & trustworthy than to be & relate in passive aggressively and directly manipulative, lying, negatively projecting, hypocritical, ghosting ways.
One deserves to be treated as one treats me & others.
Ignoring, deflecting, gaslighting, lying & otherwise attempting to avoid this truth & true equality of equal rights balanced & earned by equal unbiased honest investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts, does not change this fundamental truth.
Karma. ☯️💙
Be more mature, integral & trustworthy than to be & relate in passive aggressively and directly manipulative, lying, negatively projecting, hypocritical, ghosting ways.
One deserves to be treated as one treats me & others.
Ignoring, deflecting, gaslighting, lying & otherwise attempting to avoid this truth & true equality of equal rights balanced & earned by equal unbiased honest investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts, does not change this fundamental truth.
Karma. ☯️💙
Perceive beyond the barriers of words, preformed associations & feelings.
Do you relish the spaciousness between words & experiential reality?
A bit ironic to write this, but recognize the words as merely a finger pointing to what we focus on, are, relate & create with. Obviously they have their uses. And we can also perceive & relate beyond them.
How often do you allow your awareness to quiet, calm and expensively deepen beyond the noise of verbal & mental words echoing off confining preformed ideas?
Of course we strengthen our body & fitness using resistance bands, qigong, yoga, calisthenics & other methods.
Likewise, quietly, calmly being & perceiving experiences, things & people through a fresh, non-assumptive & quiet consciousness uncluttered by knee jerk labeling & habituated subjective feelings, strengthens our clarity & freedom.
This does not mean we do not have a balancing quality of discernment & honesty. Only that we recognize & admit the limitations & blinders of assumptions, projections, habituated reactions, feelings & behaviors, whether personal, ideological, religious, political or other types of dogmatic thinking.
Allow yourself to look at, perceive & relate with life, people & experiences with a fresh outlook. Not grasping onto the "safe space" of words, preformed dogmatic ideas & associations.
Float & flow freely in the ocean of being with open inquisitiveness, appreciation, honesty and integrity.
Beyond even these words & labels.💙☯️🦋
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #diversityofthought #harmony #gratitude #dogma #awareness #beauty #beautiful #communication #relationships #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #inspiration #relationships #organicfarming #friendship #naturelovers #nature #fitness #organicgardening #silence #motorcycleriders #napavalley #goldengatebridge
A bit ironic to write this, but recognize the words as merely a finger pointing to what we focus on, are, relate & create with. Obviously they have their uses. And we can also perceive & relate beyond them.
How often do you allow your awareness to quiet, calm and expensively deepen beyond the noise of verbal & mental words echoing off confining preformed ideas?
Of course we strengthen our body & fitness using resistance bands, qigong, yoga, calisthenics & other methods.
Likewise, quietly, calmly being & perceiving experiences, things & people through a fresh, non-assumptive & quiet consciousness uncluttered by knee jerk labeling & habituated subjective feelings, strengthens our clarity & freedom.
This does not mean we do not have a balancing quality of discernment & honesty. Only that we recognize & admit the limitations & blinders of assumptions, projections, habituated reactions, feelings & behaviors, whether personal, ideological, religious, political or other types of dogmatic thinking.
Allow yourself to look at, perceive & relate with life, people & experiences with a fresh outlook. Not grasping onto the "safe space" of words, preformed dogmatic ideas & associations.
Float & flow freely in the ocean of being with open inquisitiveness, appreciation, honesty and integrity.
Beyond even these words & labels.💙☯️🦋
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #diversityofthought #harmony #gratitude #dogma #awareness #beauty #beautiful #communication #relationships #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #inspiration #relationships #organicfarming #friendship #naturelovers #nature #fitness #organicgardening #silence #motorcycleriders #napavalley #goldengatebridge
Nourishing aliveness with leisurely, focused appreciative exploring ☯️💙🌿.
One way of nourishing appreciative calmly grounded, open-hearted & clear consciousness is being & exploring with a relaxed, grateful & non-dogmatic inquisitiveness. Exploring inner & outer life with a relaxed, leisurely focused quality. A kind of ambling, rambling curiosity.
Combined with perceiving & experiencing life with refreshing shifts of reference points so to speak.
As in sensing & experiencing life not only from a singular point of evaluation which we may be accustomed to or conditioned by society, ideologies and other belief systems to judge & thereby feel about experiences, things and beings from such lens. But enjoying the processes of expanding our perspectives, empathy, awareness and resultant feelings & responses to include perceiving life within & beyond us neutrally to positively.
For instance, if one often sees & thinks about a particular place, such as some infrastructure like the dam in this video, there may be a tendency to instinctively mentally label it as a "dam", "that monolithic structure," and along with any associated accumulated beliefs & feelings about those labels.
We can choose to refresh & expand our awareness & gratitude by recognizing such tendencies to label & ossify our beliefs & feelings in such preformed thinking & feeling boxes, release the comfortably familiar grip to more freely explore fresher, more alive & nuanced ways of appreciatively perceiving & relating.
Perhaps relishing the blending of linear, sharp-angled structures with more curvaceous, spiraling flowing ones?
Noticing and feeling grateful for the ingenuity, creativity, strength and creative determination of the people who came up with ideas for structures such as the dam, miles of pipes, valves, and associated equipment which creates the ability for large numbers of humans to simply turn a handle and receive clean water for drinking, showering, and other uses in the convenience of our homes, offices and elsewhere.
Or sensing parallels among a dam, its outlets for releasing water in gauged amounts in a specific direction, and the human body with similar borders - barriers as the one-way valves in our circulatory system that allow blood to flow in one direction through miles of capillaries, veins, and arteries. Enabling a titrated quantity of fluid to proceed into and through various locations based on the capacity needed and the ability to be structurally supported.
Or attuning to the nuances of colors that various structures have. Feeling the unique colors & shades of them and how we can allow our awareness to harmonize with those qualities. Similarly to how we can use a tuning fork to bring our voice to a specific tone.
Or wondering how other creatures may sense and relate with what we perceive. Birds may have a different subjective perspective about the same structure, for instance, based on how its shape, temperature, and material affect wind flow and strength? And its relationship with ideal locations for nesting, perching, finding food, flight pathways, and perhaps for play?
Another vantage point is sensing the beauty & harmony expressing through the relative softness, adaptability, and fluid nature of water as it flows and nestles right up to the edges of the hard, relatively flat planed immobile concrete and steel surfaces of the dam. The immediacy of that meeting in the present being starkly obvious.
Yet even the seemingly definitive distinction between them can gradually erode over centuries as the solid structures gradually decay and fall into ruins.
Let both hemispheres of the brain, along with the empathic expansive heart and grounded physical body harmoniously coexist and thrive. Freeing ways of perceptions & feelings from comfortably calcified knee-jerk habitual pathways of perceiving & prioritizing.
At least, including these processes as rejuvenating practices for a bit each day. 🌿☯️💙
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Combined with perceiving & experiencing life with refreshing shifts of reference points so to speak.
As in sensing & experiencing life not only from a singular point of evaluation which we may be accustomed to or conditioned by society, ideologies and other belief systems to judge & thereby feel about experiences, things and beings from such lens. But enjoying the processes of expanding our perspectives, empathy, awareness and resultant feelings & responses to include perceiving life within & beyond us neutrally to positively.
For instance, if one often sees & thinks about a particular place, such as some infrastructure like the dam in this video, there may be a tendency to instinctively mentally label it as a "dam", "that monolithic structure," and along with any associated accumulated beliefs & feelings about those labels.
We can choose to refresh & expand our awareness & gratitude by recognizing such tendencies to label & ossify our beliefs & feelings in such preformed thinking & feeling boxes, release the comfortably familiar grip to more freely explore fresher, more alive & nuanced ways of appreciatively perceiving & relating.
Perhaps relishing the blending of linear, sharp-angled structures with more curvaceous, spiraling flowing ones?
Noticing and feeling grateful for the ingenuity, creativity, strength and creative determination of the people who came up with ideas for structures such as the dam, miles of pipes, valves, and associated equipment which creates the ability for large numbers of humans to simply turn a handle and receive clean water for drinking, showering, and other uses in the convenience of our homes, offices and elsewhere.
Or sensing parallels among a dam, its outlets for releasing water in gauged amounts in a specific direction, and the human body with similar borders - barriers as the one-way valves in our circulatory system that allow blood to flow in one direction through miles of capillaries, veins, and arteries. Enabling a titrated quantity of fluid to proceed into and through various locations based on the capacity needed and the ability to be structurally supported.
Or attuning to the nuances of colors that various structures have. Feeling the unique colors & shades of them and how we can allow our awareness to harmonize with those qualities. Similarly to how we can use a tuning fork to bring our voice to a specific tone.
Or wondering how other creatures may sense and relate with what we perceive. Birds may have a different subjective perspective about the same structure, for instance, based on how its shape, temperature, and material affect wind flow and strength? And its relationship with ideal locations for nesting, perching, finding food, flight pathways, and perhaps for play?
Another vantage point is sensing the beauty & harmony expressing through the relative softness, adaptability, and fluid nature of water as it flows and nestles right up to the edges of the hard, relatively flat planed immobile concrete and steel surfaces of the dam. The immediacy of that meeting in the present being starkly obvious.
Yet even the seemingly definitive distinction between them can gradually erode over centuries as the solid structures gradually decay and fall into ruins.
Let both hemispheres of the brain, along with the empathic expansive heart and grounded physical body harmoniously coexist and thrive. Freeing ways of perceptions & feelings from comfortably calcified knee-jerk habitual pathways of perceiving & prioritizing.
At least, including these processes as rejuvenating practices for a bit each day. 🌿☯️💙
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Colorful life 🌈 .
A beautiful, mystical aspect of the natural world includes abundant hues of colors! Life is saturated with a massive variety of objects, beings and seemingly empty space which reflect light such that we and others see them as having certain colors.
Even something like the open expansive spaciousness of the sky above us is generally considered as being various shades of blue, which flow into oranges, reds, purples, yellows. And darker shades of blue & even black as the earth rotates on its axis orbiting around the sun, slipping half of the terrestrial orbs surface into shadow.
Even though we usually see colors everyday & pretty much anywhere we look, the magnificent artistic beauty & creative richness of existence continues manifesting in part through the extensive color pallete with which existence creates life in all its varieties.
How wonderful it is that apples exist in shades of reds, pinks, yellows, whites & greens. That carrots are orange, yellow, white, purple and red hues depending on the time and climate! That we can ingest brilliant dark blue colors in the form of blueberries!
Perhaps you enjoy the soothing, calmly nourishing qualities you sense while gazing at sensuously rolling hills & plains covered in gradations of green & brown grass, trees and other vegetation?
And the lively, refreshing palette of colors radiating forth from flowers rising out of the earth and branching out from plants & trees.
Of course one of the most radiant expressions of color on earth can be ( subjectively, of course ) considered rainbows! They are like the earth is emitting a holographic grand arc of natural beauty in concert with rays of sunlight dancing in rain or mist filled air!
The main colors visible in rainbows tend to be the same associated colors of the main Chakras according to some spiritual & meditative beliefs.
Chakras being simply defined as energy centers within, and in ways nourishing, the human body & qualities of consciousness.
The first base chakra being red, the second Chakra orange, the third yellow, the fourth green, the fifth blue, the sixth indigo, the seventh violet.
Microcosm & macrocosm. Yin & Yang. ☯️
...Spend time appreciatively focusing on & opening to each individual color, attuning to its wavelength, its quality of consciousness & feelings.
This can be an insightful, nurturing & centering experience. Transforming experience of color beyond merely word based conceptions.
Quietly experiencing each color in visceral, expansive & feeling ways. Let the unique qualities of colors expand one's perceptions and experience of being. 🌈
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Even something like the open expansive spaciousness of the sky above us is generally considered as being various shades of blue, which flow into oranges, reds, purples, yellows. And darker shades of blue & even black as the earth rotates on its axis orbiting around the sun, slipping half of the terrestrial orbs surface into shadow.
Even though we usually see colors everyday & pretty much anywhere we look, the magnificent artistic beauty & creative richness of existence continues manifesting in part through the extensive color pallete with which existence creates life in all its varieties.
How wonderful it is that apples exist in shades of reds, pinks, yellows, whites & greens. That carrots are orange, yellow, white, purple and red hues depending on the time and climate! That we can ingest brilliant dark blue colors in the form of blueberries!
Perhaps you enjoy the soothing, calmly nourishing qualities you sense while gazing at sensuously rolling hills & plains covered in gradations of green & brown grass, trees and other vegetation?
And the lively, refreshing palette of colors radiating forth from flowers rising out of the earth and branching out from plants & trees.
Of course one of the most radiant expressions of color on earth can be ( subjectively, of course ) considered rainbows! They are like the earth is emitting a holographic grand arc of natural beauty in concert with rays of sunlight dancing in rain or mist filled air!
The main colors visible in rainbows tend to be the same associated colors of the main Chakras according to some spiritual & meditative beliefs.
Chakras being simply defined as energy centers within, and in ways nourishing, the human body & qualities of consciousness.
The first base chakra being red, the second Chakra orange, the third yellow, the fourth green, the fifth blue, the sixth indigo, the seventh violet.
Microcosm & macrocosm. Yin & Yang. ☯️
...Spend time appreciatively focusing on & opening to each individual color, attuning to its wavelength, its quality of consciousness & feelings.
This can be an insightful, nurturing & centering experience. Transforming experience of color beyond merely word based conceptions.
Quietly experiencing each color in visceral, expansive & feeling ways. Let the unique qualities of colors expand one's perceptions and experience of being. 🌈
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Expanding beyond our sense of self.
Do you ever expand your empathic awareness to include the equal beingness, perspectives & freedom of other human and nonhuman beings?
While it can be easy to interpret, feel & relate with life and other beings from a perspective based in our own individual personal biased self interests, limits of comfort, preferences & beliefs, of course such is but a tiny fraction of what exists & is possible.
Allowing our viewpoints to relax & expand, to muse on considerations, priorities & perspectives from the perspectives of other human & nonhuman beings is a worthwhile choice.
We may not truly understand & perceive exactly how others do, but we are able to at least approximate. To attempt to do so, de-calcifying our own consciousness in the process. Cracking the confining shell of dogmatic ideological & other biased ways of looking, interpreting, feeling & relating. Relax with deep, slow breathing.
Calming & quieting the chattering mind & emotions. Expand awareness beyond your body to include your surroundings. Choose an aspect of nature, including other beings, and immerse yourself its nature. Even if it feels foreign, uncomfortable or even enjoyable. Give yourself over to sensing, prioritizing, feeling & being as this new to you consciousness.
How does your size differ relative to other human and nonhuman life, plants, human made structures, insects, etc.?
What is your relative speed of perception & movement? How do you see? Do you see visually at all?
Do you perceive primarily through kinesthetic vibrations, sound, temperature gradations, scents, or other ways?
Is your life span spent mostly solitary, or in some forms of relationships with other beings?
Give yourself over to this process. Allow yourself to creatively explore.
While it can be easy to interpret, feel & relate with life and other beings from a perspective based in our own individual personal biased self interests, limits of comfort, preferences & beliefs, of course such is but a tiny fraction of what exists & is possible.
Allowing our viewpoints to relax & expand, to muse on considerations, priorities & perspectives from the perspectives of other human & nonhuman beings is a worthwhile choice.
We may not truly understand & perceive exactly how others do, but we are able to at least approximate. To attempt to do so, de-calcifying our own consciousness in the process. Cracking the confining shell of dogmatic ideological & other biased ways of looking, interpreting, feeling & relating. Relax with deep, slow breathing.
Calming & quieting the chattering mind & emotions. Expand awareness beyond your body to include your surroundings. Choose an aspect of nature, including other beings, and immerse yourself its nature. Even if it feels foreign, uncomfortable or even enjoyable. Give yourself over to sensing, prioritizing, feeling & being as this new to you consciousness.
How does your size differ relative to other human and nonhuman life, plants, human made structures, insects, etc.?
What is your relative speed of perception & movement? How do you see? Do you see visually at all?
Do you perceive primarily through kinesthetic vibrations, sound, temperature gradations, scents, or other ways?
Is your life span spent mostly solitary, or in some forms of relationships with other beings?
Give yourself over to this process. Allow yourself to creatively explore.
Eternally transforming existence.
Eternally transforming existence. ☯️💙🐞
Grasp as we might, life ceaselessly flows. Our body, relationships with people, things & experiences inevitably transform in subtle & overt ways. Some rapidly & others gradually relative to chosen reference points.
Does this mean we should not care about, enjoy and focus our attention on creating & nurturing certain relationships with people, objects & experiences? Because if everything & everyone is going to be gone at some point anyway, what does it matter!
Of course I can't speak for you, nor vice versa, as our lives & what we value is individual and changeable at that.
That being affirmed, as long as we are alive & conscious we are an intrinsic aspect of life. We are existence exploring, creating & enjoying being, perspectives & experiences.
If only absolute immortality & permanence matters for any aspect of life to be worthwhile, nothing would exist.
What helps us live lives worthy of being? Again a matter of subjective viewpoints. But I venture to affirm that nurturing a foundation of open honesty with oneself and each other, deepening our gratitude - appreciation for as much of life as possible, nourishing healthfully loving & honest relationship of diverse kinds with mutually appreciative beings, along with a calm acceptance of the spacious temporal nature of earthly life is a healthy, harmonious choice.
Grasp as we might, life ceaselessly flows. Our body, relationships with people, things & experiences inevitably transform in subtle & overt ways. Some rapidly & others gradually relative to chosen reference points.
Does this mean we should not care about, enjoy and focus our attention on creating & nurturing certain relationships with people, objects & experiences? Because if everything & everyone is going to be gone at some point anyway, what does it matter!
Of course I can't speak for you, nor vice versa, as our lives & what we value is individual and changeable at that.
That being affirmed, as long as we are alive & conscious we are an intrinsic aspect of life. We are existence exploring, creating & enjoying being, perspectives & experiences.
If only absolute immortality & permanence matters for any aspect of life to be worthwhile, nothing would exist.
What helps us live lives worthy of being? Again a matter of subjective viewpoints. But I venture to affirm that nurturing a foundation of open honesty with oneself and each other, deepening our gratitude - appreciation for as much of life as possible, nourishing healthfully loving & honest relationship of diverse kinds with mutually appreciative beings, along with a calm acceptance of the spacious temporal nature of earthly life is a healthy, harmonious choice.
Yin & Yang. ☯️ Relative consistency, stability & objectivity blends with subjectivity, changeability, unpredictability....
Yin & Yang. ☯️ Relative consistency, stability objectivity blends with subjectivity, changeability, unpredictability....
For instance two different people of the same height & weight can be holding something in their hand such as a piece of food. Those two individuals will likely subconsciously & consciously choose to view that same food and even the act of holding it for the same period of time, in different ways.
If a bird suddenly swoops down from the sky, grasps the food in its talons and absconds high into the sky with it, the different people may interpret & thereby feel different about the whole experience. One person may react with anger, frustration and screech at the bird for stealing their food! The horrors!
Another person may view the same experience with humorous surprise and laugh at the randomness and silliness of being mugged by a flighty avian being! They may even marvel at the sharpness of vision and stealthy smoothness with which the bird absconded with the food they were about to enjoy.
Among many other ways of interpreting, feeling & responding.
Same exact experience, same type of being it occurred to and by, same environment...yet a different subjective perspective, feelings & reaction or response to it all!
As with so much of life, human experiences, relating...☯️💙🌿
For instance two different people of the same height & weight can be holding something in their hand such as a piece of food. Those two individuals will likely subconsciously & consciously choose to view that same food and even the act of holding it for the same period of time, in different ways.
If a bird suddenly swoops down from the sky, grasps the food in its talons and absconds high into the sky with it, the different people may interpret & thereby feel different about the whole experience. One person may react with anger, frustration and screech at the bird for stealing their food! The horrors!
Another person may view the same experience with humorous surprise and laugh at the randomness and silliness of being mugged by a flighty avian being! They may even marvel at the sharpness of vision and stealthy smoothness with which the bird absconded with the food they were about to enjoy.
Among many other ways of interpreting, feeling & responding.
Same exact experience, same type of being it occurred to and by, same environment...yet a different subjective perspective, feelings & reaction or response to it all!
As with so much of life, human experiences, relating...☯️💙🌿
Nourishing our embodying nature.
Appreciating the natural spiritual - sensual nature of our embodying soul, by being healthy, exercising, meditating, hydrating, eating healthfully, and being honest and grateful enriches the quality of living.
Engaging in calm, focused physical fitness activities such as qigong, yoga, Pilates, calisthenics, and related processes on a consistent basis expresses & deepens respect and love for our embodying nature.
This honors the fact that while humans, we are sensualizing spirit - Life - nature.
Clarifying our perceptions, positively affecting our experiencing of being, and grounding us in the present with harmony & grace.
Engaging in calm, focused physical fitness activities such as qigong, yoga, Pilates, calisthenics, and related processes on a consistent basis expresses & deepens respect and love for our embodying nature.
This honors the fact that while humans, we are sensualizing spirit - Life - nature.
Clarifying our perceptions, positively affecting our experiencing of being, and grounding us in the present with harmony & grace.
Do you allow dogmatic & related biased beliefs to be transformed?
Do you allow dogmatic & related biased beliefs to be digested & transform?☯️💙🌿🌹
To be honest and perceive and understand facts, perspectives & experiences beyond familiar comfort zones, confirmation-biased assumptions & preferences, we must be willing to allow attachments to the latter to die.
We must embrace facts, truths and natural transformations even when they sometimes feel uncomfortable, 'offensive", strange or "triggering".
We must be courageously open to learning, admitting & digesting new experiences, ways of viewing, responding & relating with life, our sense of self and each other.
We don't have to like and do everything, of course. Just be strong & calm enough to truly expand out of our comfort zones. Be centered enough in essence, openness, appreciation and honesty to admit that beauty, healthy growth, love and purpose exist in a vast array of realities. Realities including and beyond those we are or have been preferential & familiar with.
To be honest and perceive and understand facts, perspectives & experiences beyond familiar comfort zones, confirmation-biased assumptions & preferences, we must be willing to allow attachments to the latter to die.
We must embrace facts, truths and natural transformations even when they sometimes feel uncomfortable, 'offensive", strange or "triggering".
We must be courageously open to learning, admitting & digesting new experiences, ways of viewing, responding & relating with life, our sense of self and each other.
We don't have to like and do everything, of course. Just be strong & calm enough to truly expand out of our comfort zones. Be centered enough in essence, openness, appreciation and honesty to admit that beauty, healthy growth, love and purpose exist in a vast array of realities. Realities including and beyond those we are or have been preferential & familiar with.
Remember to nourish honest, appreciative presence in the present 💙☯️🌿.
Now is the time we exist.
Whether or not we will live a predetermined linear amount of time and develop, fulfill & grow beyond specific desired milestones, desires & goals, is not guaranteed.
It is essential to ground ourselves in being & relating in the fluid now with fully open honesty, inquisitiveness, and appreciation.
In order to be authentically healthfully present and enjoy our lives in depthful ways.
Whether or not we will live a predetermined linear amount of time and develop, fulfill & grow beyond specific desired milestones, desires & goals, is not guaranteed.
It is essential to ground ourselves in being & relating in the fluid now with fully open honesty, inquisitiveness, and appreciation.
In order to be authentically healthfully present and enjoy our lives in depthful ways.
Moment by moment. Savor or scarf down life?
Moment by moment. Savor or scarf down life?
Oranges 🍊 are conveniently naturally wrapped in individual luscious segments. How do you tend to eat an orange?
Do you quickly gulp down segments? Is there another segment or more already zeroing into your mouth before you've finished fully masticating the orange piece already in there?
Do you end up consuming the entire orange and are left with a gnawing sense of incompleteness or a vague sense of not being fully aware of eating each piece?
Or are you richly present & aware of yourself as an autonomous being distinct from what you are about to & do place into your maw?
Even as you are also interconnected with it, especially as it gradually transforms into your physicalizing being upon being eaten.
Are you grounded and centered as you slowly, attentively separate the orange along its fascial lines into individual segments?
As you gradually bring each individual piece toward your mouth, do you savor its' sweet scent? The moist flesh firmly bulging as it presses outward into the skin embracing its fullness.
Do you give yourself time to leisurely allow each juicy segment to burst & dissolve in your mouth?
Allow its' flavor and textures to flow forth, saturating your tongue and mouth before slipping down the winding pulsating pathways of your throat, stomach, intestines and eventually becoming the cells of your body?
Appreciatively focus on deeply relishing each piece of the whole, before moving on to the next. Relating with each with grateful freshness.
Bringing this same quality of attentively appreciative presence to how we are and relate, to what we do, to how we perceive & thereby feel, enriches our sense of healthy enjoyment & relative satisfaction.
Knowing nothing is the absolute source of fulfillment in itself. Other than our choice to embody open honesty, appreciative and exploratory presence.
Oranges 🍊 are conveniently naturally wrapped in individual luscious segments. How do you tend to eat an orange?
Do you quickly gulp down segments? Is there another segment or more already zeroing into your mouth before you've finished fully masticating the orange piece already in there?
Do you end up consuming the entire orange and are left with a gnawing sense of incompleteness or a vague sense of not being fully aware of eating each piece?
Or are you richly present & aware of yourself as an autonomous being distinct from what you are about to & do place into your maw?
Even as you are also interconnected with it, especially as it gradually transforms into your physicalizing being upon being eaten.
Are you grounded and centered as you slowly, attentively separate the orange along its fascial lines into individual segments?
As you gradually bring each individual piece toward your mouth, do you savor its' sweet scent? The moist flesh firmly bulging as it presses outward into the skin embracing its fullness.
Do you give yourself time to leisurely allow each juicy segment to burst & dissolve in your mouth?
Allow its' flavor and textures to flow forth, saturating your tongue and mouth before slipping down the winding pulsating pathways of your throat, stomach, intestines and eventually becoming the cells of your body?
Appreciatively focus on deeply relishing each piece of the whole, before moving on to the next. Relating with each with grateful freshness.
Bringing this same quality of attentively appreciative presence to how we are and relate, to what we do, to how we perceive & thereby feel, enriches our sense of healthy enjoyment & relative satisfaction.
Knowing nothing is the absolute source of fulfillment in itself. Other than our choice to embody open honesty, appreciative and exploratory presence.
How do you love?
How do you love? 💙☯️
Do you make & have a list of what you want in and from someone for you to consider them attractive, "worthy" of appreciation and relating with as an intimate companion? Or as friends?
Do your friends also make such lists?
What are those criteria that you filter your perceptions, feelings and openness to relating with men and / or women through?
How essential are the qualifying factors, to truly being an integral, loving, healthy human? How depthful or superficial?
Be fully honest about it all. With yourself and others.
Are any of those criteria based in how you believe others such as your girl friends, the sisterhood, socialites, etc., may judge your potential or actual intimate companions and / or judge you for associating with them?
Now turn all your qualifying requirements for others back onto yourself. And onto your friends.
Including the expectations, preferences and requirements you want in a partner, in friends and people generally.
Among such, which traits, behaviors and entitled expectations would you not like to be subjected to and would be deal breakers for you in relationships of varied kinds?
Do you qualify for all the standards, demands, expectations you want to receive from others?
Do you think, feel, expect and relate in ways toward men ( or women ) that you would feel offended, used for your money or status or other externals, unappreciated for your humanity if you were viewed and treated in the same ways? Do you want & even expect what you do not equally truly give? Or are you genuinely congruent & supportive of true equality?
True equality, honesty, trustworthiness, harmony & love requires you, your friends, I and everyone balance equality of rights & belief with equality of honest unbiased investigation, responsibility and accountability of everyone in all ways & contexts. Naturally.
If we want to be viewed and treated lovingly, honestly, to be appreciated for our equal humanity rather than used as someone else's bank account or social prop, to be communicated with openly honestly rather than manipulatively passive aggressively and directly dishonestly and ghosted,
then of course we must equally give the former integral, honest, loving ways of being, viewing & relating to each other.
This is true not only for intimate relationships, but for how we relate with people in general.
No amount of deflection, confirmation biased in-group preference, gossip, false accusations and ghosting will change this foundational truth.
Beings of integrity, real beauty, trustworthiness and love respect and embody these truths in how we are, view and relate with life and each other. ☯️💙
Do you make & have a list of what you want in and from someone for you to consider them attractive, "worthy" of appreciation and relating with as an intimate companion? Or as friends?
Do your friends also make such lists?
What are those criteria that you filter your perceptions, feelings and openness to relating with men and / or women through?
How essential are the qualifying factors, to truly being an integral, loving, healthy human? How depthful or superficial?
Be fully honest about it all. With yourself and others.
Are any of those criteria based in how you believe others such as your girl friends, the sisterhood, socialites, etc., may judge your potential or actual intimate companions and / or judge you for associating with them?
Now turn all your qualifying requirements for others back onto yourself. And onto your friends.
Including the expectations, preferences and requirements you want in a partner, in friends and people generally.
Among such, which traits, behaviors and entitled expectations would you not like to be subjected to and would be deal breakers for you in relationships of varied kinds?
Do you qualify for all the standards, demands, expectations you want to receive from others?
Do you think, feel, expect and relate in ways toward men ( or women ) that you would feel offended, used for your money or status or other externals, unappreciated for your humanity if you were viewed and treated in the same ways? Do you want & even expect what you do not equally truly give? Or are you genuinely congruent & supportive of true equality?
True equality, honesty, trustworthiness, harmony & love requires you, your friends, I and everyone balance equality of rights & belief with equality of honest unbiased investigation, responsibility and accountability of everyone in all ways & contexts. Naturally.
If we want to be viewed and treated lovingly, honestly, to be appreciated for our equal humanity rather than used as someone else's bank account or social prop, to be communicated with openly honestly rather than manipulatively passive aggressively and directly dishonestly and ghosted,
then of course we must equally give the former integral, honest, loving ways of being, viewing & relating to each other.
This is true not only for intimate relationships, but for how we relate with people in general.
No amount of deflection, confirmation biased in-group preference, gossip, false accusations and ghosting will change this foundational truth.
Beings of integrity, real beauty, trustworthiness and love respect and embody these truths in how we are, view and relate with life and each other. ☯️💙
Appreciating the gift of embodying life in the fluid now.
Remember our lives as humans on earth are a generous gift.
What distorting lens of confirmation-biased assumptions, projections, comfortable "safe space" prejudices & knee jerk offended reactions, passive-aggressive and direct dishonesty & hypocritical attitudes do you view & relate with life and people through?
Are you willing to admit that recognizing and evolving beyond such attitudes & behaviors is necessary for being, perceiving & relating with a mind & heart receptive to learning, understanding & relating clearly, honestly and harmoniously?
To being trustworthy & beautiful.
For an unknown amount of "time" within a relatively small cosmic breath, we are privileged with an opportunity to explore embodying spiritual - sensual life.
Choosing to do so, to be & relate with authenticity, open honesty, appreciation & non-dogmatic exploration in how we are, communicate & relate, helps us make wise, healthy use of our moment as earthlings.
In what ways can you embody these ways of being, perceiving & relating more fully?
What distorting lens of confirmation-biased assumptions, projections, comfortable "safe space" prejudices & knee jerk offended reactions, passive-aggressive and direct dishonesty & hypocritical attitudes do you view & relate with life and people through?
Are you willing to admit that recognizing and evolving beyond such attitudes & behaviors is necessary for being, perceiving & relating with a mind & heart receptive to learning, understanding & relating clearly, honestly and harmoniously?
To being trustworthy & beautiful.
For an unknown amount of "time" within a relatively small cosmic breath, we are privileged with an opportunity to explore embodying spiritual - sensual life.
Choosing to do so, to be & relate with authenticity, open honesty, appreciation & non-dogmatic exploration in how we are, communicate & relate, helps us make wise, healthy use of our moment as earthlings.
In what ways can you embody these ways of being, perceiving & relating more fully?
A few characteristics of integral, trustworthy, honest human beings.
☯️💙A few characteristics of being integral, trustworthy, honest human beings include -
* Respecting the fact that the limits of anyone's ( including one's own ) personal understanding, comfort, boundaries, and interest are not the limits of what exists and is equally valid, loving, worthwhile, and good .
* Not rushing to feel and claim to be offended. Not using anyone's ( including one's own ) choice to negatively project, to feel and / or claim to be offended as a manipulative attempt to oppressively violate and censor other people's existence, rights, freedoms of expression, and relating.
* Not passive-aggressively and or directly lying to or about people & events nor ghosting people. Not lying in order to flake on agreements, to steal, to avoid equality of responsibility & accountability for ones own behaviors and effects of such.
Not passive-aggressively manipulatively expecting people to mind read & know & thereby respect what one's personal expectations, boundaries and feelings are before self-responsibly directly honestly communicating them in a mutually respectful way.
* Communicating openly directly honestly about one's own subjective individual feelings, assumptions, questions, boundaries, preferences expectations & generally with people before expecting to have such understood and equally respected. While respecting others equally.
* Being open-minded, appreciative, and inquisitive, rather than dogmatic and negatively assumptively projecting.
* Appreciative of nuance and the natural goodness of the healthy natural human body, affection, openness offers and experiences of friendship and other kind, honest ways of human relating & creativity.
* Understanding & respecting in attitudes & ways of relating that such are foundational requirements for co-creating mutual understanding, non-hypocritical, respectful & harmonious relationships of all kinds.
And choosing to be & relate in such ways is a basic expression of empathy, maturity and integrity.
* Respecting the fact that the limits of anyone's ( including one's own ) personal understanding, comfort, boundaries, and interest are not the limits of what exists and is equally valid, loving, worthwhile, and good .
* Not rushing to feel and claim to be offended. Not using anyone's ( including one's own ) choice to negatively project, to feel and / or claim to be offended as a manipulative attempt to oppressively violate and censor other people's existence, rights, freedoms of expression, and relating.
* Not passive-aggressively and or directly lying to or about people & events nor ghosting people. Not lying in order to flake on agreements, to steal, to avoid equality of responsibility & accountability for ones own behaviors and effects of such.
Not passive-aggressively manipulatively expecting people to mind read & know & thereby respect what one's personal expectations, boundaries and feelings are before self-responsibly directly honestly communicating them in a mutually respectful way.
* Communicating openly directly honestly about one's own subjective individual feelings, assumptions, questions, boundaries, preferences expectations & generally with people before expecting to have such understood and equally respected. While respecting others equally.
* Being open-minded, appreciative, and inquisitive, rather than dogmatic and negatively assumptively projecting.
* Appreciative of nuance and the natural goodness of the healthy natural human body, affection, openness offers and experiences of friendship and other kind, honest ways of human relating & creativity.
* Understanding & respecting in attitudes & ways of relating that such are foundational requirements for co-creating mutual understanding, non-hypocritical, respectful & harmonious relationships of all kinds.
And choosing to be & relate in such ways is a basic expression of empathy, maturity and integrity.
What experiences have you had of people manipulating you through passive-aggressive and / or direct dishonesty?
What experiences have you had of people manipulating you through passive aggressive and / or direct dishonesty? Experiences of people lying by omission and / or commission to or about you or both?
Such as individual(s) having specific expectations, boundaries, preferences & feelings while relating with you which they didn't own their equality of responsibility for proactively & responsively directly honestly telling you exactly what, when & where they were before expecting you to know & respect such. Even when you asked them to communicate such directly honestly with you for mutual clarity & respect.
Perhaps even abusively negatively projecting, shaming and falsely accusing you for the misleading effects of their choice to relate in such ways.
Whether by people you were close with, by relative strangers or by people whose relationship with you was somewhere in between?
How did you feel about being lied to and / or about? Did they lie about lying? How did it effect your life? Your relationship with the people who lied to & about you and about you to others?
Do you truly think lying makes the world a better place? That it co-creates mutual understanding, healthy & loving relationships?
Do you think people who lie are being integral, loving & trustworthy people by choosing to relate in such dishonest ways?
Now, being fully openly honest even if it feels uncomfortable, how have you been indirectly and / or directly dishonest in your ways of relating and communicating with and about others?
Imagine you are those people. How do you feel about being treated in the ways you've treated them? Especially when their intentions were kind & honest, even when you misinterpreted or even misrepresented them as offensive or negative.
Really honestly feel the effects of your attitudes and behaviors returning back to you.
Some cultures have a term to describe a universal principle of life eventually returning the attitudes & behaviors one treats others with, back to oneself. Karma.
Understand that how you treat people, whether you are appreciative, directly openly honest & honestly communicative about your behaviors, feelings, boundaries, assumptions, biases, beliefs with people before expecting them to understand & equally respect such, what you give equally to what you take & receive, how you relate with each other & life is karma you have earned & are earning.
What karma are you earning? ☯️
An aspect of being an integral, beautiful and loving soul includes caring about this not only because of how it effects oneself and what one can "get" from relationships with others, but equally caring how it effects others for their sake.
Expanding ones empathy & love beyond narcissistic self absorption.
Thereby also developing trustworthiness, love, integrity & emotional maturity. 💙🌏
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #diversityofthought #harmony #gratitude #dogma #dogmatic #freedomisntjustforyou #beauty #beautiful #communication #honestcommunication #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #inspiration #relationships #intimacy #friendship
Such as individual(s) having specific expectations, boundaries, preferences & feelings while relating with you which they didn't own their equality of responsibility for proactively & responsively directly honestly telling you exactly what, when & where they were before expecting you to know & respect such. Even when you asked them to communicate such directly honestly with you for mutual clarity & respect.
Perhaps even abusively negatively projecting, shaming and falsely accusing you for the misleading effects of their choice to relate in such ways.
Whether by people you were close with, by relative strangers or by people whose relationship with you was somewhere in between?
How did you feel about being lied to and / or about? Did they lie about lying? How did it effect your life? Your relationship with the people who lied to & about you and about you to others?
Do you truly think lying makes the world a better place? That it co-creates mutual understanding, healthy & loving relationships?
Do you think people who lie are being integral, loving & trustworthy people by choosing to relate in such dishonest ways?
Now, being fully openly honest even if it feels uncomfortable, how have you been indirectly and / or directly dishonest in your ways of relating and communicating with and about others?
Imagine you are those people. How do you feel about being treated in the ways you've treated them? Especially when their intentions were kind & honest, even when you misinterpreted or even misrepresented them as offensive or negative.
Really honestly feel the effects of your attitudes and behaviors returning back to you.
Some cultures have a term to describe a universal principle of life eventually returning the attitudes & behaviors one treats others with, back to oneself. Karma.
Understand that how you treat people, whether you are appreciative, directly openly honest & honestly communicative about your behaviors, feelings, boundaries, assumptions, biases, beliefs with people before expecting them to understand & equally respect such, what you give equally to what you take & receive, how you relate with each other & life is karma you have earned & are earning.
What karma are you earning? ☯️
An aspect of being an integral, beautiful and loving soul includes caring about this not only because of how it effects oneself and what one can "get" from relationships with others, but equally caring how it effects others for their sake.
Expanding ones empathy & love beyond narcissistic self absorption.
Thereby also developing trustworthiness, love, integrity & emotional maturity. 💙🌏
#honesty #honest #appreciation #love #freedom #diversity #diversityofthought #harmony #gratitude #dogma #dogmatic #freedomisntjustforyou #beauty #beautiful #communication #honestcommunication #qigong #yoga #fitness #bookwriting #author #inspiration #relationships #intimacy #friendship